If you can't talk to each other, talk to me.

Are you experiencing problems in your relationship?

My name is Trisha Higgs and I am a Relationship Counsellor and Psychosexual Therapist for couples and individuals, serving Kent, Hildenborough, Sevenoaks, Tonbridge and Tunbridge Wells. Appointments are often held in person, however, I can also see clients online using Zoom, facetime or telephone.

I studied and worked at the world renowned 'Tavistock Relationships' (TR) in London, a centre of excellence for Couples Counselling and Psychotherapy training, and research into couple relationships. I see couples and individuals, both heterosexual or same sex, in a partnership, or single.

Sometimes being in a relationship can feel lonely

Perhaps you have issues such as depression, juggling work and children, financial difficulties, significant and stressful life changes, or worries about your sexual relationship.

Or your relationship may have become too difficult, and you are wondering how to make it work. Perhaps you are are uncertain whether you want to stay together, either because of a betrayal such as an affair, constant arguments, or feeling that the spark has gone. Sometimes knowing that you and your partner have made the decision to talk to a Relationship Counsellor can make all the difference.

If you are currently single, you might want to explore relationship patterns, or be struggling with an issue such as depression or anxiety, and this may have affected your confidence. Or you might wonder why you find intimacy so difficult.

Take that first step & talk to me

I provide a stress free, comfortable and relaxed environment where we can think together without distractions, about difficult thoughts and feelings.

I work in a non-judgemental way. There is no 'blaming and shaming'.

My qualifications, training & experience

My qualification in Couples Psychotherapy and Counselling is amongst the most prestigious in the field. I have an MSc in Relationship Counselling and Psychosexual Therapy (University of East London), gained after seven years of training and clinical experience, seeing couples and individuals at Tavistock Relationships.

I work with individuals as well as couples

I am qualified to see individuals as well as couples, and can help with issues such as anxiety, depression, stress, low self-esteem and addictions. I have excellent people skills, having worked in the NHS for fifteen years.

“No matter what happens, or how bad you feel today, life does go on, and things will get better tomorrow.” — Maya Angelou

I provide a safe space to explore your feelings

If you're experiencing any of the below, please get in touch to see how we can work together.

  • Addictions
  • Controlling behaviour
  • Drifting apart
  • Constant destructive and escalating arguments
  • Feeling you are not listened to, or are not important to your partner
  • Sexual issues such as erectile difficulties, pain, loss of desire, or internet pornography addiction
  • Affairs or betrayals
  • Depression in one or both partners
  • You may be considering separation or divorce
  • Stressful family issues such as conflicted approaches to parenting, and seeing the In-Laws
  • Step-parenting issues such as divided loyalties to new partners and children

"Compatibility doesn't determine the fate of a relationship, how you deal with the incompatibilities does"


Get in touch

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling works, or to arrange an initial appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.

You can call me on 077721 12039 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.

I am flexible about appointment times, offering early morning appointments that you could fit around a busy commute, and evening and Saturday morning appointments if you work late, or need to arrange babysitting. Appointments can be held in person, or online via Zoom, Facetime or telephone.